Shame

In the poem titled Shame I can't help but to feel bad for the daughter because like myself the daughter is stuck between two different culture values which she never asked to be in. The daughter shows up to her mothers work dressed comfortably as she probably dresses on a day to day basis, but because her mother was raised under different culture values  (1st Filipino Generation) her daughter is disrespecting her mother by not dressing up to go visit her mother at work. The daughter (2nd Filipino Generation) doesn't see the disrespect she is causing her mother at work. its not like she was using profanity or doing it to hurt her mother. I believe the mother is forgetting that she came and brought her daughter to the United States and introduced her to a culture with values far apart then those on the Philippines so instead of pushing the daughter away with guilt she should of had the patience to understand her daughter and cope with the situation so that in the future the daughter will know better, but NO all the mother seems to care about is what others will think and how will they judge her after that scenario instead of her own flesh and bloods feelings. I'm sure that the daughter loves her mother just like any other child does but if a parent just expects their child to be perfect, they are the ones who should be ashamed. Children learn from their parents and value their knowledge if and when parents are reasonable about their children's flaws and learn to educate them with good communication. Telling her daughter that "You're and embarrassment" could give the daughter multiple ideas and even maybe giving her the idea to just never go visit her mother at work ever again which then will make the mother look even worse because those nosy co-workers will then wonder why the daughter never came back and get the wrong idea that the mother doesn't appreciate her daughter for who she is.